If you follow my Facebook page you may have seen last week that I just made a momentous decision. I left my part time job in order to focus on my business and supporting my ‘Beautiful Swans’ (that’s you, by the way).
I’m a bit impetuous by nature I think, I like to follow my heart and I like to be happy but more than that, I won’t put up with being unhappy.
I’ve been on a long journey of self development in the last 6 years. I’ve gone from being Miss Negative, blaming everyone else for my unhappiness to taking responsibility for my own happiness and having some tricky conversations when it comes to getting it.
I’m very self aware, know my own needs, strengths, values and weaknesses and I’m learning to be a better negotiator and connector when it comes to navigating relationships.
But I see in a lot of my clients, the reasons they overeat and binge is that their needs are not being met, they’re not being honest about who they are (either with themselves or with others) and they fear exposing themselves for fear of criticism and difficult conversations.
It’s not easy, going from here to there in one leap, so if you’re thinking that you might need to make some changes when it comes to your happiness, what can you do?
Start by thinking about your needs. And your essence. What do I mean by your essence? I mean that thing that makes you who you are. Because if you can identify who you are, then you can work out what it is that you need in order to support you in being.
I need to be needed. I’m a carer and a healer. I need to feel that I’m helping. Because of that, I can get drained and tired easily, so I need to remember to take time for myself and to get lots of sleep.
I also get bored easily, I need excitement and change and lots of short activities to keep me interested in, well, life. I love learning, so books and new experiences need to be plenty.
I’m sensitive, so I need people around me who can support me when I need it. I need lots of hugs and physical contact to build up my energy.
If you’re struggling to find your essence then meditation can help. Try sitting with your eyes closed, quietly and simply set the intention to connect with yourself. Then, focusing on (but not obsessing over) your breath simply sit and allow the thoughts and the images and the single words to come.
If you need a little help with meditation, you can always download the Letting Go Deep mediation to help you.
I’d love to hear your comment below once you’ve identified your needs and your essence.