So, when I saw the image that I’ve used to accompany this blog, it really struck a chord.
What makes me come alive? Really alive. Not just still living but that aliveness that makes me feel exhilarated just by ‘being’?
I realised that I haven’t felt like that for quite a while, part of the reason I’m taking the coaching programme in the first place.
You see, my own coach told me this week that my goals aren’t enough about me. And a few friends have told me that I sabotage my own success by worrying about others far too much and not putting myself first.
So I sat for a while and really thought about it and realised that, whilst it may seem that way to an outsider, that’s what makes me come alive.
The thing that really lights me up, exhilarates me, thrills me to my very core is working with clients and seeing their breakthroughs, knowing that I have helped to facilitate their seeing their own brilliance and magnificence. And when I get to do that I feel alive.
I love that feeling when a client has a realisation of how she can make her life more exciting or bend more her way. I love it when she realises that there is nothing stopping her being happy, being beautiful, being healthy other than the beliefs, stories and metaphorical cages that she has put around herself.
I love it when the tears flow as she releases all that knowledge, understanding and love for herself, having let everything out of the box and knowing she can’t and won’t put it back in.
When I know that it is me who has helped that client to realise her own worth and her own value simply by being there, holding a safe and supportive space for her and recognising who she is underneath all those layers of ‘should’ and ‘can’t’ and fear, even before she can.
Because when you let go of all that, you can really come alive. You can be the you that you need you to be. You can create the life where you are truly living.
Of course there will always be ups and downs but then, if you’re not feeling the whole spectrum of emotion then you’re still not really fully alive. You have to be able to feel pain to fully experience joy. You have to be able to be sad in order to fully feel happiness.
So I’ll ask you these questions: who are you? And what do you need to feel alive?
Me? I need to feel needed.
There’s nothing wrong in that, provided I know when to stop and say ‘no’. And yes, maybe I need to work on that a little, we are all a work in progress and I’m no exception.
So tell me, what is it that makes you come alive? What do you need to say yes to and what do you need to say no to? And very importantly, what support do you need in order to come alive?